The Millennial Homemaker

The musings of a Stay at Home Mom

Miss Wishy-Washy

I need to do a little explaining of this title. Just this week I have been called this name. In the past I would have cowered in a corner and cried. But, this time I took it like a big girl should. I pulled up my boot straps, straightened my neck, and held my face forward.

Yes, I am Miss Wishy Washy.

It’s not always a bad thing to not know what you want in this life. Everyday there are a million choices that need to be made. What should I eat? What should I wear? Should I turn left or right for better traffic? Do I drink regular or leaded coffee (or none at all)?

Life is full of choices.

Sometimes, we don’t get to make our choices. Sometimes, the choices are laid out as plain as day. For example, most of us have two bad genes: one will lead to cancer, and the other will lead to diabetes (and heart disease). We don’t have a choice in that wild card.

But, with that in mind, we can still make choices to prevent those diseases. We can choose what we want to eat. We can choose if we want to exercise. We can choose to be happier and lead stressless lives (which will reduce your chances of cancer or diabetes).

So, this is why I am Miss Wishy Washy.

I am trying to figure out the best path for my life. I have my hands in 5 network marketing groups at the moment. Yes, F I V E !!!! I have so much love for so many things, that I figured if I dabble if enough of them, then O N E of the them will make sense. It’s not about the money I’d make. It’s about the relationships and the life changing experiences.

So, go ahead and say it.

“Why can’t you just make up your mind and stick with something?”

Well, I definitely understand that question. It is a question I have asked of others several times in the past. But, now, as a mid-life woman, I see why there are variables.

Life is short. You only live once on this planet. It is okay to try a variety of things as long as it benefits your own life (without harming others).

So, take a risk. Join that network marketing group if you want. Try a new hobby. Read a good book. Take that road trip. Hike that mountain.

Be wishy-washy. And while you are at it, say HI to me 🙂



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Reality Check

I had a wonderful conservation with a new mentor/friend yesterday. I loved to hear her stories, her insight, her perception of life. I gleaned so much from her. But, the most important thing I retained from the conversation is this:

No one person is ever fully in control of his/her own life. Never.

For as much as I try to control my surroundings, my feelings, or my circumstances, I cannot control the outside forces or the conclusions of any event. It is not that I do not try or fail at what I do. I have learned that sometimes it is best to plan and prepare and just ride that wave.

I cannot control the weather. I cannot control my predestined genetic pattern toward disease or illness. I cannot control my children. I certainly cannot control my husband! Nor can I control the drivers on the road, or the way our country is headed with poor decisions.

However, I can prepare for all these things. I can be watchful for the weather. I can eat healthier and exercise to ward off disease or illness. I can train and nurture my children. I can love and respect my husband. I can drive defensively and cautiously (yes, and maintain the speed limit). I can vote and pray for my country’s leaders that I believe will help further my values and beliefs.

My reality check is nothing more than following the ABCs of life: acknowledge and accept uncertainty; believe and behave according to my core values; and choose to love and live by conviction (and not guilt).

My friend did not plan to have cancer and die. My mother did not plan to have dementia. My family did not plan to change homes twice in the past two years through job loss and bankruptcy. All of my friends and loved ones have had things happen for which they did not plan to have happen to them.

I am confident of one thing through all of this uncertainty. I love God, and God loves you and me. I cling to Him every moment of my life. Always.

One of my favorite worship songs says this:

“Higher than the mountains that I face
Stronger than the power of the grave
Constant in the trial and the change
This one thing remains

Your love never fails
It never gives up
It never runs out on me

Your love

And on and on and on and on it goes
Yes, it overwhelms and satisfies my soul

And I never, ever, 
have to be afraid 

This one thing remains …”

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